How does the Gottman method address anger in relationships?

• A. Recognize anger as a threat and suppress it.
• B. Recognize anger as a signal; use time-out if needed; validate and reframe; use repair attempts.
• C. Treat anger as a personal weakness to be solved privately.
• D. Avoid addressing anger and hope it disappears.

Answer: (D)

Anger is treated as information about the relationship, not something to hide or suppress. In the Gottman approach, anger signals that a need is unmet or a bid for connection hasn’t been heard. The response is to notice the anger, acknowledge its message, and respond in a way that reduces escalation. If emotions run high, taking a time-out helps both partners cool down so the conversation can stay constructive. After a pause, validating the other person’s experience and lightly reframing the issue helps them feel heard rather than attacked. Then the couple uses repair attempts—small, caring moves or statements that repair the connection, restore safety, and move toward solving the underlying problem. This sequence keeps the dialogue focused on relationship repair rather than ignoring anger or reacting defensively, which aligns with the Gottman emphasis on turning anger into a moment for understanding and connection.