In conflict, repair attempts function primarily to

• A. They help to mitigate negative feelings and restore connection.
• B. They are attempts to win the argument.
• C. They should be avoided during intense emotions.
• D. They signal the end of the discussion.

Answer: (B)

Repair attempts during conflict are moves that aim to reduce tension and reconnect. They de-escalate negative emotions and keep the couple emotionally connected even when the discussion gets heated. A repair attempt can be something like a brief apology, an acknowledgment of the other person’s feelings, a light or warm remark, or a direct statement of understanding. The purpose is to signal that you’re on the same team and to reset the emotional climate so you can continue discussing the issue without spiraling into contempt or withdrawal. They are not about winning the argument; they’re about restoring safety and warmth to the relationship so you can tackle the problem together.