What are The Four Horsemen, and what is one key antidote for each?

• A. A repair attempt is a plan to separate; critical because it reduces conflict.
• B. Criticism – Gentle Start-Up; Contempt – Appreciation and Respect; Defensiveness – Take Responsibility and non-defensive response; Stonewalling – Physically self-soothe and schedule a comeback
• C. Criticism – Ignore the partner; Contempt – Laugh at partner; Defensiveness – Blame the partner; Stonewalling – Walk away permanently
• D. Criticism – Express anger only; Contempt – Withdraw affection; Defensiveness – Refusal to apologize; Stonewalling – End relationship

Answer: (B)