What does 'repair attempts' refer to in Gottman therapy?

• A. Efforts to end the relationship
• B. Attempts to avoid conversation
• C. Punish the partner
• D. Efforts to reconnect after a bid or disagreement

Answer: (D)

In Gottman therapy, repair attempts are moments when one partner tries to reconnect emotionally after a bid or disagreement. They are deliberate moves to de‑escalate tension and restore positive connection, rather than escalate the conflict. Examples include apologizing or taking responsibility, expressing empathy, using light humor to diffuse tension, soothing the other person, or proposing a pause to calm down and revisit the topic later. The goal is to keep the relationship afloat by repairing the rupture and re-engaging with warmth. Consistent, effective repair attempts are a strong predictor of relationship stability, because they prevent conflicts from spiraling into lasting disconnection; when repairs are ignored or dismissed, the couple is more likely to slide into ongoing negativity.