What is a bid in Gottman terms?

• A. An attempt to connect, such as a statement, touch, or gesture that invites a response
• B. A demand for compliance
• C. A silent withdrawal
• D. A physical action

Answer: (A)

In Gottman terms, a bid is any attempt to connect with your partner—an invitation to engage. It can be a verbal remark, a touch, a look, a joke, or any small gesture that invites a response from the other person. The essential idea is the intention to connect and the expectation that the partner will respond in some way.

That’s why the correct choice fits: it captures the essence of a bid as an invitation to connect and elicit a response. The other options miss that core aspect. A demand for compliance is about control rather than connection; a silent withdrawal isn’t inviting engagement; a physical action on its own isn’t necessarily a bid unless it’s intended to connect and invites a response.