What is an example of adaptive miscommunication and how would the therapist reframe it?

• A. Clear, direct communication without misinterpretation.
• B. Example: misinterpretation; therapist guides to ask clarifying questions and reflect.
• C. Ignore misunderstandings and move on.
• D. Provide immediate advice.

Answer: (B)

Adaptive miscommunication is using a misunderstanding as a moment to connect and repair, rather than letting it escalate. The example shows a misinterpretation being worked through by the therapist, who prompts clarifying questions and reflective listening. This approach models a repair attempt, helping partners surface what they heard, check for accuracy, and feel heard. By guiding questions and reflection, the therapist reduces defensiveness, increases understanding, and turns a potential clash into an opportunity for connection—central to Gottman-based therapy. The other options miss this repair focus: they either avoid miscommunication altogether, ignore misunderstandings, or jump to advice without fostering clarification and reflection.