What is the purpose of 'repair attempts' in Gottman therapy?

• A. To repair strained interactions and restore connection after bids.
• B. To escalate conflict.
• C. To avoid discussing core problems.
• D. To replace the need for therapy.

Answer: (C)

Repair attempts are moments when one or both partners signal a wish to keep the relationship going even after a tense moment or a misstep. They’re practical moves—like a brief apology, a light check-in, a calming breath, a reframe such as “let’s start over,” or a soothing tone—that aim to soften the interaction and re-establish connection.

The purpose is to prevent a small rupture from turning into a lasting disconnect. By quickly signaling that unity and warmth matter, partners can de-escalate, reduce defensiveness, and create space to address the underlying issue later when emotions are calmer. In Gottman theory, how often and how effectively couples repair these ruptures strongly predicts relationship satisfaction and stability because the negative exchange doesn’t harden into contempt or withdrawal.

Repair attempts aren’t about avoiding problems or escalating conflict. They’re a key skill to stay connected enough to talk about tough topics constructively, and they’re a tool used within therapy to help couples maintain a safe, supportive climate as they work through issues.